Dealing with the Drama Queen

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Every Office has one, some gal, that is like pure cancer. Often times, she's pretty, or she used to be (former captain of the cheer leading squad types...), but sure as heck, she's dangerous to your career, and those around her. If she's not hustling the married broker big hitter, she's sitting in the car during lunch with the young gun that has the hot new car....In my last go around, she tried to make the moves on me, when I would not oblige "the former captain of the cheerleading squad" she did everything she could to make life difficult for me. She was distracted though, and was busy trying to get several others fired too. One day, she made a big mistake, and I found out she was "selling away" bank loans to the competition, where her husband worked. Got a piece of proof, and poof, DEAD QUEEN, her 18 yrs at the bank...poof....So, let's share a few stories here, about dealing with the Femme Fatale...    

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That's hardcore.  How often do these people come by?

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By my experience, every office of any size, has at least one of these folks at any given time. Back in the mid 90s, I handed a shared FA a typed memo generated by my Act! software. The next day, I was taken to the woodshed because it had the word "memo" on it, and it was in red font. Apparently this made the FA feel subserviant.... I've found, that a few tears, they go a really long way. Shared FAs are the worst, as they always understand how the gig works. They'll only serve the one rep that is the biggest producer/the one they are having an affair with. If you give them work, they say "you're too small a producer, besides, I'm busy". So, eventually, that gal serves say 3 or 4 reps, and doesn't do even 30 minutes worth of work per day. As soon as one rep complains, the gal fights back with tears, ore threats of some sort of harassment. Never share an assistant...

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I hope all the rookies read and learn from this post!Good stuff.

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Makes me glad that I work in a one FA one BOA office.  No drama.   

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Post her facebook profile.

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Space, you nailed it. Not only "no drama", but a severe reduction in career risk. I know a fairly long list of folks that have terminations and basically being blackballed from the industry because of the Drama Queen and her devious habits. Realize, that at some point, that gal realizes she'll never make the coin that the big hitter is making, but she sure can destroy it for someone else. Much like a vandal, taking the key to your beemer, benz, vette... 

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Oh, here's another really good one. National Sales meeting....Rep is drunk, and is hitting on some gal at the meeting, he's way over the top, but she's loving the attention. These meetings are 98% men, 2% women...Economy falls apart, right before she gets fired, she files a sexual harassment claim about ONE YEAR later regarding the incident, figuring there's no way she can be fired. The broker, granted on thin ice already, gets fired a few weeks later... Not sure how long ms bimbo lasted.

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had a couple in my past office... beej's in the stairwell- you name it I 've seen it... I'll try to remember some stuff... usually they were never a threat to anyone's job though... maybe a marriage.

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Now, let me say that being a one FA one BOA office, it makes it miserable when there is drama between me and my (previous) or when you're just tired of her and want a new one.  Back in my HQ days we used to hear stories about FAs and BOAs getting fired at the same time.  Nothing like getting caught in the FA's office "having your Friday morning meeting."   It's also pretty easy for a disgruntled BOA to make an FA's life miserable by just calling HR and making some allegations.  It's her word against his, and in this society he might as well hang it up, cause he's done. 

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Spaceman Spiff wrote:Now, let me say that being a one FA one BOA office, it makes it miserable when there is drama between me and my (previous) or when you're just tired of her and want a new one.  Back in my HQ days we used to hear stories about FAs and BOAs getting fired at the same time.  Nothing like getting caught in the FA's office "having your Friday morning meeting."   It's also pretty easy for a disgruntled BOA to make an FA's life miserable by just calling HR and making some allegations.  It's her word against his, and in this society he might as well hang it up, cause he's done.  It surprises me that we don't get more fo that.  Then again, maybe we do and we just don't hear about it.However, I think in many cases FA's tend to hire the older, "motherly" (grandmotherly in many cases) types.  I haev to be honest, I would be hesitant to hire a young, attractive assistant.  I don't think anyone would believe for a minute that I would sexually harass my CURRENT BOA.  Plus, older women (in general) tend to be less dramatic, and will put up with a little more crap than younger women.  I hear the crap that my wife and her friends whine about all the time, and I just thank god for my BOA. 

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B24, I remember an older granny type back in the mid 90s. She was mean and nasty, and followed one of the two brokers she worked with elsewhere, took accounts with her. She knew all the dirty secrets, where the skeletons were buried, and HATED the big hitter she worked for. Funny, a sales assistant may HATE her job, but she'll stick around for years, mostly because they're lazy, or the money is better than they'd make somewhere else. Today, I think that is really common, folks hating their job, but staying put for lack of alternatives.   I would say this on the subject of office clashes. If anyone ever telegraphs that they are out to get you, you'd better watch EVERY step you make. If they persist, you have got to take THEM out. I may not start it, but I'll finish it... Trouble is, sometimes it's been the new boss out to get me, and when that was the case, might as well start looking for new office right away.

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Gelar123:Buy a ad. 

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I know one of these types. But I don't work in an office with her - I live next door to her. She's exactly one of those ex-head cheerleaders and thinks people should still treat her the way they did in high school. Unfortunately, she no longer has to looks or the charm to pull it off so she just ends up looking sad and pathetic most of the time.

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Ah, the boom boom room. Those were the days!I know someone who move from an office after both the branch mgr and branch sales mgr got bounced for sexual harrassment. Then the mgr at the new offce got bounced for the same thing. All three of these guys decided that getting laid by the help was worth putting a six figure job on the line. Every guy understands the thinking with the wrong head thing, but sometimes ya just gotta exercise some self control.

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